In a small village it was the custom of the village priest that whenever he married somebody he would kiss the bride. It was an old tradition. One woman who was going to be married was very concerned. She thought herself very beautiful, as every woman does. It is womanly, it is nothing new. Really, every woman thinks so -- even the ugliest. She thought herself very beautiful and she was very concerned and worried. She said again and again to the would-be husband, to the groom: Go and tell the priest that I don't want to be kissed after the marriage. 在一个小村庄有一种风俗，每当乡村牧师在主持某人的婚礼时，他要亲吻那个新娘。这是一种旧的传统。一个将要出嫁的女人十分担忧。她以为自己十分美丽，像每个女人一样。这就是女人，这并不是新鲜事儿。真的，每个女人都这么想——哪怕是最丑的。她以为自己十分美丽，她非常担心和忧虑。她一遍又一遍地对未来的丈夫——新郎说："去和那个牧师说，我在婚礼以后不要被亲吻。"
Just before the marriage, she again asked the groom: Have you been to the priest and told him? The groom very sadly said: Yes. The bride asked: Why are you so sad? The groom said: I told the priest and he was very happy. He said: 'In that case I will charge only half the usual fee.'婚礼开始之前，她又问新郎："你去找牧师谈过了吗？"新郎悲哀地说："是的。"新娘问："你为什么那么忧伤？"新郎说："我告诉牧师了，他非常高兴，他说'如果这样那我就只收通常费用的一半。'"
You may go on thinking yourself a beautiful person but nobody thinks that way about you because everybody is concerned with his own beauty, not with yours. And if anybody nods and says, 'Yes, you are beautiful', he or she is just waiting for you to nod about his or her beauty. It is a mutual bargain: You fulfill my ego, I fulfill yours. I know well that you are not beautiful, you know well that I am not beautiful, but I fulfill your ego, so you fulfill mine. 你可能一直认为你自己是一个美丽的人，但没有人会对你这么想，因为每个人都想着他自己的美丽，而不是你的。如果有人点点头说："是的，你是美丽的"，他或她只是在等待你认可他或她的美丽。这是一种共同的交易：你满足了我的自我，我满足了你的。我知道你并不美丽，你也知道我并不美丽，但我满足你的自我，因此你也会满足我的。
And everybody seems to have such a need to feel unique. That means you have not come upon your own being which is unique without any need of proof. Proofs are needed only for lies -- remember. That is why you cannot prove God -- because he is the ultimate truth. Proofs are needed only for lies, truth needs no proof; it is -- simply it is. 每个人看来都有这么一种感觉独特的需要。那意味着你还没有发现你自己那种独一无二的、无需证明的存在。只有谎言才需要证实——记住。那就是你为什么无法证明神——因为他是最终的真理。只有谎言才需要证明，真理无需证明；它是——它本来就是。